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Speaking Title: END CHILD ABUSE and EXPLOITATION
Everyone should be able to look in the mirror and be able to say: “I like you!”
This Wednesday, August 27, 2025, I’ll be interviewed to talk about an epidemic that has surpassed any reasonable explanation as to how 300 Million PLUS Children around the world could be abused in 2024.
Albert Einstein was quoted as saying “the world will not be destroyed by evil, but by those who watch and do nothing to prevent it.”
My name is Raymond G Comeau, and I’m the author of “What Bad We Do, DON’T EVER CROSS THE LINE.”
Besides the children crying for help, we the citizens, the parents, teachers, and governments cry for societies in every country to enforce the laws.
My 3 talking points are: 1. The porn industry is responsible for child abuse. The videos that years ago came from photos sold in alley ways in every city, and every state. Then came VHS tapes sold and showed in Adult Entertainment center’s in downtown America. When the internet came, a plaque ensued, and VHS tapes were gone. That brought in child abuse, say HELLo to the millions in waiting to welcome in the devil himself. 2. All wrong actions done to the innocent, are done in negative euphoria. I created the word negphoria, in order to fill the gap left open. We are a species looking to follow every DARK path, no matter where it leads, thinking we can always comeback. WRONG!
Besides inviting you to listen to my interview, after I’m offering you to read an un-edited 3 Part course, I’m close to completing.
The title: “Being My Best MALE Self.”
I started writing this course over a month ago, when I thought of all the different writing projects both finished, and unfinished. Combining one completed book: What Bad We Do, Why We Do the Bad We Do, guide to Self-Esteem, a course we use at Outreach Re-entry Ministry on cognitive behaviour, and an eBook: ASHAMED, 10 Ways to Stop Watching Porn, the complete ingredients for being a # 10 is there.
Please, this Wednesday, go to the link below, and at 5 PM listen, and learn what I have written here. THEN, download the FREE giveaway. I would like you to read and comment on the 3 Parts of my course.
This kind of “stuff” is what we all need today, many yesterday’s ago, and the many more days to come.
Oh, I almost forgot. Kids, teens or young adults if you have one or a few.
Lack of self-esteem is a terrible condition. SUPPORT! Anyone you know that thinks they’re a ONE, talk to them as fast as you can. Something is cooking inside them. A hug to start!
See you ALL on Wednesday at 5 PM MST. You’ll, no we’ll (you and I) will be HAPPY you did.
Go to raycomeauwriting@gmail.com It’s Ok, I’ll cry a little, but I’ll read EVERY WORD you leave. It comes from the Soul you know.
“Sometimes it’s the people who no one imagines anything of who do the things no one can imagine.” Enigma
Module 1: Why Being Your Best Male Self Matters
Dear Young Men,
Let’s start with the truth: most of the world’s problems—violence, crime, abuse, and destruction—are caused by males.
Did you know?
That’s not just a number. It’s a warning. A wake-up call. And an invitation for you to be different.
But why? Why do young men cause so much trouble?
It’s not because they’re born bad. It’s because many of them grow up without real guidance. They follow the wrong crowd. They let anger rule their actions. They chase power or pleasure instead of purpose. They lie, cheat, steal, and use violence to prove something.
But here’s the real truth:
Being your best male self means choosing strength through responsibility—not power through harm.
What Does “Crossing the Line” Mean?
In life, there are clear moral lines. There’s right and there’s wrong.
Crossing the line means doing something you know is bad lying, hurting others, breaking trust, destroying peace.
Some guys cross that line once. Some make a habit of it.
But you can choose not to.
You Were Meant for More
You were born for more than just survival.
You were born to make a difference. To stand up for what’s right.
To love, lead, and live with courage. To build, not destroy.
But that takes self-control. It takes values. And it takes accountability.
This course will walk you through 34 problems men face—many of them you may already know too well. Each one is a chance to stop, think, and decide:
Am I crossing the line? Or am I becoming my best self?
You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to be honest, humble, and willing to grow.
Remember this:
The world doesn’t need more tough guys. It needs good men. Strong, responsible, respected men. The kind who protects, not harm. The kind who says “no” to wrong—even when it’s hard.
And that kind of man?
Starts right here—with you.
Reflect & Write
Module 2: The First Step to Change – Stop Lying
Let’s get real.
Every wrong action starts with a lie.
We lie to others. We lie to ourselves.
And the more we do it, the easier it becomes.
Lying is the first line that gets crossed.
You say you didn’t do it—but you did.
You say you’re fine—but you’re falling apart.
You say it’s not your fault—but deep down, you know it is.
We lie to hide shame, to escape punishment, or to look good. But lies never stay hidden.
Sooner or later, lies come out. And they take people down with them.
The Lie Becomes a Lifestyle
At first, it’s small—a lie to your teacher, your boss, your girlfriend, or your parents.
But soon it becomes normal. And then, before you know it, you’re lying about everything.
And once people stop trusting you, you lose something that’s hard to get back:
Your reputation.
Without truth, there is no trust.
Without trust, there are no real relationships.
And without real relationships, you’re alone.
That’s the truth behind the lie.
Lying Hurts More Than You Think
People have even been killed because of a single lie.
Every crime, every betrayal, every broken heart—it all starts with one dishonest choice.
Think about it: What if someone lied about you?
What if that lie cost you your freedom? Or your future?
Would it be fair?
Would it hurt?
Now flip it around:
Have you ever lied to someone and hurt them—maybe more than you realized?
Truth is Power
Here’s the good news: telling the truth might feel hard, but it’s the most powerful thing you can do.
Truth makes you trustworthy.
It builds your confidence.
It earns you respect.
It lets people know you’re real.
Even when it’s uncomfortable, truth sets you free.
Being your best male self starts with one simple decision:
I will be honest. Always.
Not perfect. Just honest.
Reflect & Write
Module 3: The Damage of Swearing and Verbal Abuse
Words have power.
They can build up—or tear down.
They can calm a storm—or start a war.
They can heal—or they can humiliate.
Swearing may feel “normal” or “cool,” but it’s really a mask.
A mask for pain, anger, insecurity—or wanting to fit in.
But here’s the truth:
Swearing is weak language disguised as strength.
How Swearing Crosses the Line
Many people have ended up in jail—or worse—because of a single cuss word in the heat of the moment.
It starts as just “words.” Then it leads to yelling. Then fists fly. Then lives are changed forever.
Real Men Use Real Words
You don’t need swearing to express yourself.
You don’t need to curse to sound tough.
The strongest men are calm, clear, and respectful.
Watch how you speak—and who you speak around.
Because when your words are clean, people take you more seriously.
Especially teachers. Coaches. Employers. Future partners. Future children.
The way you speak is a reflection of who you are becoming.
Reflect & Write
Module 4: Bullying and Coercion – Real Strength is Kindness
Bullying is weakness pretending to be power.
Coercion is control pretending to be leadership.
Real men don’t push people down.
They lift people up.
What Is Bullying?
It’s not just punching or name-calling.
Bullying includes:
And it can destroy someone’s self-esteem.
Have You Been the Bully?
It’s hard to admit.
Maybe you just “joked around.” Maybe you were hurting and took it out on someone else.
But here’s the hard truth: if your actions cause fear, shame, or pain—you’re crossing the line.
No excuses. You have the power to stop.
Have You Been Bullied?
You are not weak. You are not alone.
You are valuable—and you deserve respect.
What happened to you wasn’t right. But what happens next is your choice.
Kindness Is Courage
It takes courage to speak with kindness.
It takes guts to stop a fight—not start one.
It takes strength to walk away—not explode.
Be the guy who protects the weak. Not the one who causes pain.
Reflect & Write
Module 5: Pornography, Addiction & Respect
Let’s not sugarcoat it—porn is a problem.
It’s addictive. It’s isolating. It’s disrespectful.
And worst of all—it’s shaping how you see people, especially women.
What Porn Really Does
Millions of young men are addicted to porn. But very few talk about it.
It’s a silent shame that eats away at your self-worth.
Porn vs. Respect
Porn teaches you to take.
Respect teaches you to give.
Porn is secretive.
Respect is honest.
Porn makes you selfish.
Respect makes you thoughtful.
You can’t fully respect others—or yourself—if porn controls your thoughts.
Break Free
You don’t need to be perfect.
You just need to be honest—with yourself, with someone you trust, and with God.
Freedom is possible.
Real love, real relationships, and real strength come from purity.
Reflect & Write
Module 6: Anger, Road Rage, and Drunkenness – When Emotions Rule
Let’s face it—guys get mad.
But what you do with that anger makes all the difference.
Too many young men have thrown away their lives in a single angry moment.
And suddenly, it’s all gone.
Road Rage & DWI – When You Lose Control
You’re behind the wheel. Someone cuts you off.
You yell. You chase. You flash lights. Maybe worse.
Or maybe you’re drunk or high.
You think you’re okay to drive.
Then—BAM. Life changes.
One stupid decision can steal your future.
What’s Under the Anger?
Anger is often just pain in disguise.
Instead of talking about it, many guys explode. Or drink. Or escape through violence.
But here’s the truth:
Real men learn to master their emotions. Not be mastered by them.
Be Prepared
Like the Boy Scout motto: Be Prepared.
The strongest men don’t fight. They walk away.
Reflect & Write
Module 7: Stealing, Drugs & Violence – From Temptation to Destruction
No one starts life planning to be a criminal.
It usually starts small.
Then it grows. Fast.
The Path of Destruction
What starts as a choice becomes a lifestyle.
And then, it owns you.
You Are Not a Statistic
You don’t have to be like “the streets.”
You don’t have to “prove” anything.
You don’t have to join the pain.
Being your best male self means saying “No” when everything around you says “Yes.”
Your future is worth more than money.
Your soul is worth more than street cred.
Your peace is worth more than revenge.
Reflect & Write
Module 8: Redemption – You Are Not Your Mistakes
If you’ve made bad choices—you’re not alone.
Every man messes up.
But not every man chooses to change.
And that’s what separates the ones who rise… from the ones who stay stuck.
You Are Not Your Past
You are still worth something. You can still become someone.
The world may judge you. But God forgives.
Make Peace. Make Progress.
Redemption means:
It starts small—with one right decision. Then another. And another.
Your soul matters. Your story matters. Your future matters.
Draw Your Line
This course isn’t about fear. It’s about choice.
You now know what happens when the line is crossed.
So draw it. Respect it. Never cross it again.
Be a man of honor. A man of strength. A man of peace.
Be your best male self.
Reflect & Write
BEING YOUR BEST MALE SELF – PART 2: WHY WE DO THE BAD WE DO
Total Word Count: ~4,000 | Reading Level: 8th Grade | Modules: 6
Module 1: Compromise & Excuses – The First Steps Off Track
Doing wrong often doesn’t start with a big decision. It usually starts small. One little compromise. One tiny excuse. Maybe you told yourself, “It’s just this one time,” or “No one will find out.” But the truth is, every bad decision starts with that moment when you go against what you know is right.
Compromise means lowering your standards or breaking your values, even just a little. Maybe you cheat on a test. Maybe you laugh at a mean joke. Maybe you stay quiet when someone needs help. At the time, it feels small. But it opens the door for bigger wrongs. Once you cross that line, it gets easier to cross again.
Excuses are the lies we tell ourselves to avoid guilt. We say, “I didn’t have a choice,” or “Everyone else is doing it.” But deep down, we know the truth. Excuses don’t change right from wrong.
Real strength is doing what’s right even when no one is watching. Being your best male self means standing firm on what you believe, not just when it’s easy, but especially when it’s hard.
Reflection Questions:
Module 2: Low Self-Esteem & Hate – Hurting Self, Hurting Others
When you don’t feel good about yourself, it’s easy to start putting others down too. Low self-esteem means you don’t see your own worth. You might think you’re not smart enough, strong enough, or good enough. When you believe that, you start to act like it. You might join in bullying, stay silent when you see wrong, or lash out at others just to feel better.
Hate often grows from that same place of hurt or anger. It can come from being judged, mistreated, or taught the wrong things. Hate blinds you to other people’s value. It makes it easy to treat them as less than human. But no one is born with hate. It is learned – and it can be unlearned.
When you build up your own self-worth, you are less likely to tear others down. Being your best self means learning to like who you are, and choosing to treat others with respect no matter how different they may be.
Reflection Questions:
Module 3: Anger & Alcohol – Losing Control
Everyone gets angry. It’s part of being human. But how you handle anger can either build your character or break it. Some guys punch walls. Some punch people. Some drink to numb the feelings. But the truth is, anger and alcohol are a dangerous mix.
When you’re angry, your body tenses. Your heart beats faster. Your thoughts race. If you don’t control it, you might say or do something you regret. Adding alcohol only makes it worse. Alcohol slows your thinking and weakens your judgment. That’s why so many fights, crimes, and accidents happen when someone is drinking.
You don’t have to stay a slave to your emotions. Real strength is learning how to calm down, talk it out, or walk away. Don’t believe the lie that acting tough means exploding with rage or drinking to look cool. The strongest man is the one who knows when to stop.
Reflection Questions:
Module 4: Drugs & Common Sense – Blinded by the High
There’s always a reason someone starts using drugs. Stress. Pain. Boredom. Peer pressure. But whatever the reason, the result is the same – loss of control. Drugs dull your mind and damage your body. They take away your ability to think clearly. And once you’re hooked, they can take over your whole life.
Common sense tells you that drugs lead to trouble. You see it on the news. Maybe in your own family. But when you’re hurting, common sense can be drowned out by the promise of escape. That high seems like a solution. But it’s not. It’s a trap. And it gets harder to escape the longer you stay in it.
Being your best male self means trusting your gut and protecting your future. It means knowing your worth and making choices that lift you up, not tear you down. Say no to anything that puts your body, mind, or future at risk.
Reflection Questions:
Module 5: Religion & Racism – Misusing or Ignoring What’s Right
Religion can be a powerful force for good. It can teach love, forgiveness, and strength. But sometimes, people twist it to support hate or control. That’s not real faith. Real faith makes you a better person – someone who loves others and does right, even when it’s hard.
Racism is one of the most harmful forms of hate. It’s judging someone just because of the color of their skin or where they come from. Racism causes pain, divides communities, and leads to violence. It’s wrong. No belief, group, or system should support it.
Being your best self means rejecting any message that says one group is better than another. It means standing for truth and fairness. Whether you follow a religion or not, you can still live by values like kindness, justice, and love.
Reflection Questions:
Module 6: Peer Pressure & Going Along – Don’t Follow the Wrong Crowd
We all want to fit in. That’s natural. But peer pressure can lead you into doing things you know are wrong. Maybe it’s trying drugs, skipping school, bullying someone, or lying to stay in the group. The phrase, “To get along, you go along,” can lead you down the wrong path.
It takes courage to say no. It takes strength to walk away. You might lose some friends, but you’ll keep your self-respect. And real friends won’t pressure you to do wrong. They’ll respect your choices.
Being your best male self means thinking for yourself. It means leading instead of following. Don’t trade your values for approval. Stand up. Speak out. Walk tall. You’ll not only protect your future but inspire others to do the same.
Reflection Questions:
Being My Best MALE Self – Part 3: Stronger with Self-Esteem
Module 1: What Is Self-Esteem – And Why It Matters
What Is Self-Esteem?
Self-esteem means how you feel about yourself. It’s the voice inside your head that says, “I can do this!” or sometimes, “I’m not good enough.” When you have healthy self-esteem, you believe you are worthy of love, kindness, and success—even when you make mistakes.
Self-esteem is not about being perfect. It’s not about being popular or looking a certain way. It’s about valuing yourself, treating yourself with respect, and knowing you are important just the way you are.
Why Self-Esteem Matters
Your self-esteem affects almost everything:
If you believe in yourself, you’re more likely to take chances, speak up, and do hard things. That’s how you grow. But if you think you’re not “good enough,” you may stay quiet, avoid challenges, or give up easily. That holds you back from becoming your best self.
What Happens When It’s Low?
Low self-esteem can make life harder. You may:
Sometimes, you don’t even notice it’s happening. You just feel “off” or stuck. That’s why learning to recognize low self-esteem is so important.
The Good News
Self-esteem isn’t something you’re born with or without—it’s something you build. You can make it stronger by:
The truth is, you’re not supposed to be like anyone else. You’re supposed to be YOU—and the more you accept that, the more confident you’ll feel.
“Self-esteem is how you see yourself—and how you treat yourself based on that view.”
When you believe you matter, you act like you matter. And when you act like you matter, other people will treat you that way too.
Module 2: The 2 Kinds of Self-Esteem – Real vs. Fake
Real Self-Esteem
Real self-esteem is built on truth. It comes from working hard, learning from failure, and knowing you have value even when things aren’t perfect. This kind of self-esteem helps you:
Fake Self-Esteem
Fake self-esteem is all about looking good to others. It’s based on:
This kind of self-esteem is weak. It falls apart when life gets hard. People who act super confident might actually feel very unsure on the inside.
How to Tell the Difference
Ask yourself:
If you answered yes, you are building real self-esteem.
Why This Matters
Real self-esteem lasts. It helps you grow into your best self.
Fake self-esteem fades fast and often hides fear or insecurity. When you work on real self-esteem, you build a strong, honest, and loving version of YOU.
“Confidence is silent. Insecurity is loud.”
Strong self-esteem doesn’t need to shout.
Module 3: How Self-Esteem Affects Every Part of Your Life
How You Think and Feel
When you have high self-esteem, your thoughts are more positive. You’re kind to yourself. You believe you can handle tough situations. If your self-esteem is low, you may think, “I’m not good enough” or “Why bother trying?” That negative voice makes life harder.
Your Choices and Actions
Your self-esteem affects what you choose to do. With strong self-esteem, you take healthy risks, try new things, and ask for help when needed. With low self-esteem, you may give up, stay stuck, or never try.
Friendships and Family
Good self-esteem helps you have better relationships. You know your worth and can say no when something feels wrong. You respect others and expect respect in return. If your self-esteem is low, you might let others treat you badly or hide how you really feel.
School and Goals
Believing in yourself helps you stay focused, work hard, and bounce back from failure. Self-esteem gives you the strength to keep going, even when things get tough. It tells you: “You’ve got this.”
Mental and Emotional Health
Self-esteem protects your heart and mind. It’s like armor. Without it, you might feel depressed, anxious, or hopeless. But with it, you’re stronger, braver, and more hopeful.
“How you feel about yourself decides how you live your life.”
Self-esteem touches everything. When you grow it, you grow in every direction.
Module 4: 14 Warning Signs of Low Self-Esteem
Know the Signs
Low self-esteem doesn’t always scream out loud. It shows up in small, quiet ways. Here are 14 warning signs:
What It Means
If you notice several of these in yourself, don’t panic. It doesn’t mean you’re broken. It just means your self-esteem needs some attention and care.
“Awareness is the first step to change.”
Now that you know the signs, you can start to fix them—one by one.
Module 5: Check Yourself – Simple Self-Esteem Tests
Time for a Quick Check-In
Let’s see how your self-esteem is doing right now. Be honest with your answers—this is just for you.
Test 1: How Often? (0 = Never, 4 = Always)
Score:
Test 2: How Much Do You Agree? (0 = Strongly Disagree, 4 = Strongly Agree)
Score:
“You can’t grow what you won’t admit.”
Module 6: Habits That Help You Grow Strong
Your Daily Power Tools
Strong self-esteem doesn’t come from one big moment—it comes from daily habits. Here are powerful ones you can start today:
“How you treat yourself teaches others how to treat you.”
Module 7: Change Your Mind – Thought Patterns That Build You Up
You Become What You Believe
Let’s look at 5 ways to change your thoughts and build real self-respect:
“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”
Module 8: Becoming Your Best ME – Now and Later
What Really Matters
Your self-worth is not about:
It’s about:
Self-Esteem Over Time
Your confidence may go up and down, and that’s okay. You’ll grow through every stage of life. Just remember: You are always worthy of love and respect.
When to Ask for Help
Sometimes you need extra support. That’s brave, not weak. A trusted adult, teacher, or counselor can help you get back on track.
“You are your own best friend. Treat yourself like it.”
Final Thought
Being your best YOU starts with how you see yourself.
Build your self-esteem every day. Speak kindly to yourself. Take care of your mind and body. Believe that you are enough—and keep going.
“No one else gets to define you. You’re writing your own story.”